爸爸媽媽的睡眠爭奪戰 🌙The Sleep Battle of Mom and Dad 🌙

某天夜裡，我們在第三次被哭聲喚醒後，對看了一眼。那眼神裡沒有怨，只是——「該開始了吧。」

於是，我們正式啟動了寶寶的睡眠訓練。不只是為了讓他睡好，更是為了讓我們能再次，好好地呼吸。

一、撤離戰場

爸爸媽媽搬到另一個房間。這一步很難，因為我們從未離開他那麼久。但有時距離，才能換來平靜。

二、夜間停奶

從那天起，夜裡不再餵奶。廚房關門，心卻還是開著。我們要學會分辨——哭聲不一定代表需要，只是習慣。

三、白天喝足

白天讓他喝夠喝滿，這是晚上的基礎，也是父母的小策略。「吃飽，才有力氣睡得安穩」——就像我們一樣。

四、白噪音出動

夜裡若傳出啜泣聲，我們派出白噪音——那嗡嗡聲像是另一種陪伴，像一層溫柔的霧，覆蓋在黑夜裡。那熟悉的聲音，彷彿又把他帶回媽媽懷裡的節奏，漸漸地，他放鬆、安靜、再次入睡。

五、等待三分鐘

夜裡聽著哭聲的那三分鐘，每一秒都像一場意志力考驗。我們盯著時鐘，心裡掙扎、數著拍子。但奇妙的是，常常還沒滿三分鐘，哭聲就自己停了。

六、不抱，只拍

當我們走進房間，只輕拍胸口、撫摸額頭。不急著抱起他，只讓他知道：「你不是一個人。」

七、奶嘴外交

最後一步，遞上奶嘴。小小的安撫，卻能讓他逐漸平靜。手指不再緊握、哭聲慢慢化開、呼吸漸漸規律。在夜的靜謐裡，他學會靠自己找到安全感。那一瞬間，哭聲漸弱，呼吸漸穩。他閉上眼的樣子，就像在說：「有你在，我就能再睡一下。」

幾天過去，夜裡的哭聲漸漸變短，房子裡多了久違的靜。有一晚，他睡過整夜。

我們卻在黑暗中睜眼，彼此確認：「他還好嗎？」

原來，睡眠訓練真正教會的，不是讓寶寶學會睡，而是讓爸爸媽媽學會放手。

One night, after being woken up for the third time,we exchanged a glance.There was no resentment in our eyes, just a silent thought:“Alright… it’s time.”

And so, we officially launched the baby sleep training.Not just to help him sleep better,but to give ourselves a chance to breathe again.

1. Retreat from the battlefield

Mom and Dad moved to another room.It wasn’t running away—it was the last line of sanity.Sometimes, distance is the only way to find peace.

2. No more nighttime feeding

From that night on, there would be no more milk at night.The kitchen was closed, but our hearts stayed open.We had to learn to tell the difference:crying doesn’t always mean hunger—it can just be habit.

3. Make sure he drinks enough during the day

During the day, he had to drink enough milk.It’s the foundation for a calm night—and a parent’s little strategy.“Eat well, sleep well”—just like us.

4. Deploy the white noise

When crying breaks the night’s silence,we send in the white noise.That gentle hum is like a soft fog,covering the darkness,reminding him of the rhythm of mom’s arms,and slowly, he relaxes, calms down, and drifts back to sleep.

5. The three-minute waiting game

Those three minutes of nighttime cryingfeel like a test of willpower for parents.We watch the clock, struggling inside, counting the seconds.And the amazing thing is: often, before the three minutes are up,the crying stops on its own.

6. Don’t pick him up—just pat

When we enter the room,we don’t pick him up.We just gently pat his chest and rub his forehead,letting him know:“You are not alone.”

7. The pacifier strategy

Finally, we hand over a pacifier.A small comfort, but enough to gradually calm him down.Fingers loosen their grip, cries fade, breathing becomes steady.In the quiet of the night, he learns to find security on his own.In that moment, the crying softens, the breathing steadies.He closes his eyes as if saying:“With you here, I can sleep a little longer.”

Days later, the nighttime crying gradually shortened,and the house regained a long-lost quiet.One night, he even slept through.

We, however, lay awake in the dark,checking on each other: “Is he okay?”

It turns out the true lesson of sleep trainingisn’t teaching the baby to sleep,but teaching mom and dad how to let go.